On Romantic Relationships

The Archangels Offer Some Guidance

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I had an email from a Medium friend the other day about how difficult relationships can be and how it’s hard to figure out who is being genuine or not. She was hoping the Archangels could give some advice on finding healthy relationships. I asked the Angels, and their response follows.

Question: Can you please give us some guidance regarding romantic relationships and being able to till if someone is being genuine and if the relationship is worth pursuing?

Answer:

One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is believing their happiness lies with another person. True, lasting relationships, healthy ones at least, can add to your happiness, but true happiness is found within. If you depend on someone else for happiness it is not healthy. This has nothing to do with the other person; this has to do with each individual. The first step in a healthy relationship is knowing and having a healthy relationship with yourself. If you cannot be independently happy, this is not good. Being comfortable with yourself, loving and respecting yourself, is necessary for a healthy, long-lasting relationship.

Relating to this, if your partner makes you question your self-worth, this is a blaring alarm. There are people who are so unhappy with themselves, they either want to make others unhappy also, or their self-esteem is tied to stripping the self-esteem of others around them. Needless to say, this does not help their self-esteem for long. People like this have skipped that first step of working on themselves first. If you are not mentally and emotionally healthy, it is very difficult to be part of a healthy relationship.

Another common mistake people make is believing that they can change or “fix” someone. It does not matter how strong-willed or how persuasive a person is; no one can change anyone but themselves. This is a lesson hard won by our channel during her first marriage. She believed her fiancé when he told her he would change after they were married, but he did not mean it. He also skipped the first step of working on himself, and they both suffered for it.