Hi, Joel. My husband passed over 11 years ago, and I still miss him. He had Parkinson’s, and there’s a little lamp we used to turn on with very low light in the middle of the night when I had to give him meds or help him in some way. The first couple days after his passing, I woke up in the morning, and the light was on. I was such a mess, I thought I’d turned it on without realizing it out of habit, so when I went to sleep the third night, I made it a point to make sure it was off. It was on the next day. Like you, I was skeptical. But for weeks, it turned on. Then one night, it was off, but I was crying and upset and couldn’t sleep, and it came on while I was still awake. After some time, it only turned on on special occasions, like anniversaries, birthdays, kids’ graduations, holidays, etc. Now it only comes on when I’m having a rough time for some reason.

Now for the weird part, especially for people who are looking for proof. I now channel the Archangels and share their messages here on Medium. The Angels tell me that our loved ones often come check on us after they die. They often do things like turn on lights, send animals like birds, butterflies, etc., play songs, come into our dreams, and other things. Although most of us can’t see them, they come to see us often.

Even though people die, souls do not, and the love they have for us stays with them. What does your heart tell you? Logic is good and important, but don’t discount your heart and intuition, because they count, too. Do you need proof to know your wife loved you and you her, or do you just know, because your heart knew? Some things cannot be proven, at least not yet, because we don’t know enough, but that doesn’t make them untrue. Molecules and atoms were always a part of our make up, even before we had the tech to actually see them. I could go on and on, but I’ll stop with the examples.

I hate sympathy cards. Instead of sending them to the ones left behind, I usually send a journal. Your life is going to be different now, but that doesn’t mean it has to remain bleak. You’ll begin a new chapter, and you can honor yourself, your wife, and the love you share by planning to go forward and finding joy again when you’re ready. It won’t be the same as before, but it can still be good. I wish you well, Joel, and I will also share that you’ll see your wife again someday, and she is well and joyful now and watches over you. She still loves you and always will. Blessings, Jodie