Hi Denise,
People who look for targets and unload on them are miserable. Think how unhappy you’d have to be to verbally attack someone you don’t even know, to spend your time looking for a victim on which you can spew your hatred, frustration, anger, bitterness, and fear.
People who do that give us a glimpse into their own lives. They have so much of those negative feelings that are such a part of them, they don’t know what to do with them, and so they share them with others, which only makes them feel worse, not because they may or may not have have hit their mark, but because all those feelings are still present, front and center, and they only get bigger.
Anyone who can express such hatred usually hates themself and their life and has either been shown too much of the very emotions they aim at others, or hasn’t experienced enough love, joy, hope, and compassion to be able to rise above their own mindset and embrace something better.
These people are to be pitied. It’s easy to retaliate, but it’s better for us and for them if we answer with compassion. If we respond the way they do, they’re very comfortable and are used to those emotions. Responding without their standard emotions makes them uncomfortable. And isn’t that so sad? They’re stuck in a cycle they can’t seem to escape.
I don’t like to be around people like that. Nobody does, even those who care about them, such as family members and friends. And I’m not saying I’ve never snapped back. But, when I do, I’m aggravated for longer. Better to mentally send them love and be grateful I don’t live my life that way. There’s no peace of mind, ever, unless they find some way to break through, which isn’t likely.
People generally present the emotions that are the most common in their life, the ones they are most comfortable with and share with others. People exhibit the treatment they themselves have experienced most often and judge others based on their own character. When you’re forced to deal with someone like that, it’s best to not deal with them at all.
Something for us to consider and remember, yes?
Blessings to you and thanks for the comment.
