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A Rebuttal on “Glorifying Single Parenthood”
The Archangels Are too Nice to be Part of This One
I just read an article that was extremely judgmental about how single parenthood is glorified, and how it’s pretty much to blame for most of the world’s problems. I’m taking deep breaths as I write this.
According to the author, single parents wear that badge with pride, and others who realize how hard they have it make it sound glamorous and something to be proud of.
I was a single mother for eight years after I divorced my first husband, after trying to make things work for ten years. I was naïve when I got married and thought I could help him with the many demons he fought. Without getting into too much detail, I was miserable for a long time and might as well have been a single parent then. He was extremely verbally and emotionally abusive and did not set the kind of healthy example of marriage and how to treat a wife we all want for our kids.
The author did not address other options for troubled marriages. Should I have stayed with a man who belittled me and did everything in his power to make me doubt myself? What about women in physically abusive marriages? Should they have stayed? I could go on and on with examples that show good reason and judgment for getting divorced, but we all know about that.
